Hedgehog's Dilemma

The hedgehog's dilemma states that the closer two beings come to each other, the more likely they are to hurt one another; however if they remain apart, they will each feel the pain of loneliness. This comes from the idea that hedgehogs, with sharp spines on their backs, will hurt each other if they get too close. This is analogous to a relationship between two human beings. If two people come to care about and trust each other, something bad that happens to one of them will hurt the other as well, and dishonesty between the two could cause even greater problems.

很害怕暴露出自己最深入的一面，每每若無其事避重就輕、或就捲縮畏藏，卻又在單獨時希望有人瞭解自己